I've found myself!



Time is like a pendulum between a smile & a tear. Everyday as it passes away my count on this earth gets lesser. When I was a kid I was a spoilt brat always getting things done my way. I am still the same only difference is I have grown more tolerant now, and time has been the greatest teacher for it.

I live life by my own rules. No it’s not bad to make one’s own rules but only thing is we should not be judgmental neither should we expect others to understand those rules. It’s not necessary what is righteous for me also clicks to every living element around me. We people have a habit to judge others conduct & draw conclusions on it. I say this with this much surety because I was also one of them.

Even till college I lived with this perception. Always grudging over people who were not righteous in my view & I just forgot to realize whether my view is correct. Even if it was correct why did I became the moral judge? Why did I bear the mental burden of others mistakes?

And now that I have found the answers to my question I have learnt a lesson too. Hectic schedules, busy life & this clicking time has made me feel & accept that

--- Life is too short to be wasted judging others. Just be yourself & think only about your loved ones. It’s better to spend this little precious time that we have for people we value instead of thinking about people whom we never like. ---

This is my lesson and so now I have decided that I will spend every moment in doing things that make my loved ones happy. I can’t remove the evil things from around me nor can I stop others from playing the blame game but there’s one thing I can do i.e. STOP seeing it!

Hey but then what about my rules & what about wining things always? Well I will still do it but with a difference---“Dear God, for every wrong that comes my way give me the strength to raise one step higher.”

SO BE IT!

7 comments:

Nabila

Well good if you cld relly stick to it .

But more or less this is just quite embedded in our souls . I'm talking about the feeling
"... ,, !! oh what must be she thinking .... "
"... yack!!! how can she be dressed so shabily "
" hunh,...I'll see him ... "
".... thinks no body else is smarter ...... "

and the list simply goes on .....

But then just realizing that you have been wrong makes a lot difference

At first u may just feels those thugs in ur throat bursting out ... then u;ll realize oh they r wrng ...nd u'll try keepng away frm them ....and may be someday u achieve ur goal

All the Best
Nay the Japanese way ... "DO your Best"

ArUnImA

hmm u r kind of right....
n coz i hv made up ma mind i vil actually stck 2 it.
u can keep a chck on dat afterall u r dere by my side 5 daz a week 8 hrs a day.
okies.
cheers!

Basketer

grt post

I am glad you are over it. but i have a problem, i still do this, and it feels really bad if someone close doesnt live by my rules. In my case, I know that many of my rules are wrong, but i just want them to follow my rules, since i will do that for them all the time. how can i follow your advice and not let this get in way of my life? I understand your thought on ur paper but pls shred some more light on how can I implement it??
hope u got what i meant to say

ArUnImA

I completely understand vat u mean.
U know y coz am also a virgo n virgos hv dis extreme habit of being perfectionist & seeking it everywhere.It hurts ven ppl close 2 us doesn't reciprocate our feelings in d way we do 4 dem. But den dats vat makes u special dat u identify n accept their rules on ur own.
Now u Make dem realize ur rules even if it's wrong. If they value u ,dey vil consider it n ur motive is achieved,if dey don't den they r nt worth being ur closed ones.
Mohit alwaz rembr dis advice of mine--"B VAT U R N SAY VAT U FEEL, COZ THOSE U VALUE U VIL NT MIND it N ONE WHO VIL MIND NEED NOT MATTER 2 U"
okies!

Basketer

cool then again if i take your advice, I end up remaining the same as i am right now. I do have some frds but following my rules i am never able to expand that list to say 20 ppl. coz those who follow my rules for me r very rare and close.

But still i think that my thinking is wrong and there shouldnt be rules imposed on others. you should have rules but not impose them on others but urself.

B4 i write a post of my own in ur comments, i will stop :D. but grt topic, hopefully will talk to u abt this in detail sometime.

thx.

ArUnImA

hey its a contradiction here. For me making friend means getting sum1 who understands my silence & feel my emotions n not abt increasing a list 4m 5 to 20.
I jst said 2 speak ur rules n nt impose dem. Let dem understand it, if they do den u hv clicked else dere's no need left 4 it.

rahul

How u can be so introvert yaar...
i will come back soon on this...